Children are the collateral damage of cancer. Since children grieve differently it is easy to assume, they are fine, as they can appear fine. Dillan was seven when her mom died, and I was often told that children are resilient. I have come to hate this statement as it gives adults an excuse to ignore their children’s. In our household, we encourage the children to be open about their grief and express it openly. Crying is not only reprimanded, it is encouraged. Dillan has picked up writing to come to terms with the death of her mother. Below is a short essay she wrote last night. I am amazed year and half later, she is still haunted by the last three months of her mother’s life. Please note that I have not changed her grammar to maintain the integrity of her writing.
When your loved ones pass away from animals to humans, They go to a world where they will never be seen again.
This is dedicated to my mom who past away when I was 7. She was a great mother. When I was little, she would always in the morning sing good morning to me and my sister. When my mom got diagnosed with cancer, I was very scared. At the time I was only 5 but soon I got use to it, because she acted fine. This was when she got red dots all over from the pill she was taking. Until 2017 when she got weaker and weaker because her medicine stopped working and soon she went to the hospital. It started once a month then every week and had to use a wheelchair, a breathing tube. Once she came to my performance and people gave her dirty looks. I just wanted to go up to them and tell them stop looking just stop it. It’s is not like she is a monster, she is a human too, but I did not go up to them.
Soon it was summer and I went to camp. When I got back my mom was very sick she was at a hospice house. My dad let me see her after he let me get a drink told me my mom was going to die.