Someone special sent me the picture above last week, it just makes sense. I know everyone wants us to be happy but let’s be realistic….we lost Molly two months ago, I am a single father raising two daughters which one just started middle school, and we have a one year old Pug that really misses his mommy. If I told you we were okay, wouldn’t you think I was nuts?
Last week the girls and I were invited to a famous’s person’s house who had lost her husband few years ago, although doing very well she still mourns his loss. Reality is when you loose a close loved one, in a way you never will be okay but it doesn’t mean you won’t ever be happy again. Let’s be clear we are grateful for what we have, we live in a great community who went out of their way to help and comfort us, schools have made sure the girls are supported, we have a small but a great family, and lastly we have the financial means to survive.
Not to put importance on money, but financial security is important. I had a job that allowed me to take two months off and stay with the girls, we get to keep our house and we can afford professional grief counseling. Many families after a lose of a spouse, face major financial difficulties. Some can’t even afford rent and food let alone pay for professional counseling. If I were to give one advice, it would be to seek professional grife counseling for yourself and the children after a major loss. Young children process death a lot differently than adults. My own daughters can go from laughter to tears in a matter of seconds.
So after having to be at the first day of school for a third grader & a sixth grader today without their mother and starting work again next week if I told you we were okay it would be a lie. This doesn’t mean won’t be okay later, just not now.
Well said. Your family is in the prayers of many of us in this all too large lung cancer community. May the memory of Molly’s laughter be echoed in the laughter of your daughters.
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